In the era of social media, we all have more friends than ever. But do we? I have a ton of casual, semi-anonymous folks I
I am part of a group we call Fraternity of Excellence. There are very few, if any, days off here. This month we are concentrating
One of the good things about our kids being grown and gone is our privacy. At any given time, one or both of us is
There are very few things in life that I’ve run across that have latched onto my inner core of beliefs so solidly, I end up
How about we bite off a topic for the ages? No problem. Hopefully I can amuse myself a bit. I often hear men saying things
I was talking to my curveysub this afternoon and we were comparing notes on things happening in our lives, as we try to do at
Not all of us can live in a true Dominant/submissive relationship. It takes one helluva lot of effort from both husband and wife. Some folks
One of the things I read about with most couples that get into a Dominant/submissive relationship, especially if they go 24/7, are the establishment of
A huge part of life is simply “suiting up and showing up”. Too many Men out there fail to even put forth the most basic
I met Frank about 15 years ago. Frank was a gas monkey at one of the last full service gas stations. He always was dressed
Ho Ho Ho! It’s that most wonderful time of year. Time for the Christmas turkey, sweet potatoes, dressing, wine, more wine and even more wine.
One of the exercises in the 31DTM program centers around stoicism’s concept of negative visualizations. As I fly home, it’s time to embrace the worst.
We initiated our D/s protocols a few years ago. Or I should say, we started living our true selves. The results have overall been spectacular.
My son and I were talking the other day about life. We started reminiscing, well as much as a 27 year old young man can,
After completing Men of March, that program has evolved into December of Discipline. There are over 200 Men participating. I won’t be updating about this
I am seeing a new phenomenon forming on Twitter called #UpstreamTwitter and it fascinates me. This is coalescing effort whereby men are working at becoming
One of the most amazing things I’ve noticed about Curvey and I getting our act together a few years ago, happiness bleeds over into so
I keep hearing and reading that men are toxic. And it seems the most particularly virulent strain are white men. This narrative has grown increasingly
I believe in God. Let’s get that out of the way. I’m not big on attending church these days but that’s another story.
I’m not sure when the pendulum starting to make it’s big swing back for me. But it definitely has.
In Sickness and in Health We’ve heard those words a million times. In fact, when we talk D/s contracts, many of us fall back to
There was a man one time that was told he had a torn bicep tendon in his shoulder, one of two such tendon attachment points,
When I mention anything to do with Gorean lifestyle, people will always ask me questions. Some have heard of the Gorean slave positions but I
A number of years ago, I was having a conversation with a preacher at a church we attended. We disagreed with an interpretation of scripture.
BDSM, huh? Bondage, discipline, Sadism, Masochism, Dominant, submissive. Master, slave, Daddy, little girl, etc. If someone was to ask me, “What is BDSM?” I
Your personal history is filled with the adventures of your forefathers. My sister traced our family tree all the way back to Ireland 1300’s. I’ve
My girl and I were both having good days. I was quite busy with work, lucky enough to be working from home. As inevitably happens,
Monk Mode: something about that term I just Love. I envision a man in a brown robe, huddled over a book, reading by candlelight. Intense
There is a point in every in every journey where you’ve gone beyond the Point of No Return. (Except that time we were driving to
What is it with everyone forcing labels on others and to an extent themselves? Living an authentic life, one where you are just doing you,
So Mr Beginner Dom is thrust into a tornado of relationship chaos in the most amazing and rewardingways. Suddenly, he’s back with his girl like
This has been the subject lately in circles I find myself. Curvey and I are in our 50’s. We managed to avoid the dreaded Gray
There is a movement right now to bring Masculinity back in a society that has drifted into confusion on what makes a man. Men
I lied. I promised my next blog post would be about sub-space. Shoot me but this photo grabbed me deep down inside and I wanted
One of the issues with couples wishing to enter the D/s lifestyle is a situation where one partner has had a lot more time to
We’ve all grown up listening to Aretha Frankin’s R E S P E C T song but were you aware the song was written by
I am a lucky man. I have a huge number of friends. Probably because I’ve never met a stranger. There are obviously varying degrees of
I’ve been reading Steven Pressfield’s “Gates of Fire” lately. It’s the story of King Leonidas and the 300 Spartans that sacrificed their lives defending a
I was talking to some friends the other day and we were talking about a Man’s Mission in life. That mission will change as goals
So I love to fish. Yes, any chance I get but salt water only, thank you. I grew up on Galveston Bay. Dad and I
Do you ever have one of those days where ya sit back and go, “damn this is good!” The heat is intense here in Texas.
Someone the other day asked me why I used to use the little Don’t Panic guy as my avatar. For starters, the Hitchhikers Guide to
I was cutting some wire shelving for a closet recently; using a good hacksaw with a long blade designed for metal. As I made the
Actions, not words. Walk the walk, etc. I seem to see the antithesis of this everywhere. I love reading Manosphere topics on Twitter. I
We spent the weekend with our three very young grandsons. Their Mom and Dad are no longer together and there is not a lot of
Let’s face it. Men can excel at preventative maintenance with their machines (cars, motorcycles, boats) but often fall woefully short many times when it comes
A deeper connection with someone. It’s why we go out on dates, move in together, marry, have children perhaps. And yet while we are all
One of the fun things over the last few years are my Curvey and I exploring different flavors of D/s (Dominance/submission). We have met several
Here in the United States, we have several major holidays that have been turned into three day weekends. Memorial Day kicks off the Summer
I’m sitting here on the coast of North Carolina enjoying the camaraderie of a bunch of guys I work with. This week, these are high
Lord knows I’ve told this story a few times. Even to a large like-minded group of D/s couples in Vegas last year and on various
My Curvey asked me the other day if I realized that in just a few of well chosen words, I can make her soar and
I was mentoring a young man recently. He was in the middle of a LTR break up; one he had initiated. He spoke
As Doms, I think we are expected to have a treasure trove of wise words and sage advice for those who count on us. Some
Married, LTR, single it makes no difference, you’re a man & while a society says “shrink & remain silent”. I say RISE & release your
I’m a bit surprised myself to find myself starting a blog. I’ve been a contributor on Twitter and other sites that have meant something to