The Self Aware Man

Most of us muddle along in life. We go to our jobs. We try to manage our finances with a look to future retirement. We work to raise our kids to be respectful, functional cogs in the machine, just as we are.

Fault Lies

One of the realities in embracing a formal D/s role in your home, it forces an honesty onto both partners. This can be a welcomed relief and a pained admission. Honesty is one of the basic stones that make up the D/s Foundation. When you jump into this, you accept that you will be honest [...]

The Old Cedar Chest

Somewhere along our path, Curveycat and I ended up with this old cedar chest. It has battle scars everywhere. The hardware has a few replacement screws. Some of the straps are bent but none are broken. The main latch has some pitting from old rust but it’s in otherwise sturdy shape and quite functional. Several [...]

In case there was ever any doubt… For those of you who missed my last email, I spoke at this past weekend’s 21 Convention: Patriarch Edition.   This was the first event of its kind anywhere that I know of.The men attending where the true stars of the show.  So many men told me their stories.  Stories [...]

D/s is not BDSM

One of the biggest hurdles a couple faces when exploring the ideas of adopting a formal Dominant/submissive lifestyle is the stigma surrounding BDSM. These four letters freak many people out.  These letters generally are defined as Bondage, Discipline, Sadism and Masochism.  But where’s the Dominance and submission, you ask? Books and movies, such as Fifty [...]

Men are Hungry

I was talking with a friend of mine, Hunter Drew, of The Family Alpha.  Hunter has been writing for two years now.  He reported back that his site just hit 1,000,000 views.  That’s impressive as heck. But, let’s dig a bit deeper. Hunter has been writing a very consistent message to married men and those [...]

Many men are lost and struggling in their marriages.  They want the spark back in their relationship.  There is a sense of desperation that begins to fester.  These men want a better situation than they are in. Sex is the glue that holds a marriage together.  Resentment is the solvent that dissolves it. Divorce is [...]

Proper Preparations

I arose this morning at 5:00 in order to go slay some fish.  It’s been a wet and cold week down on the Texas coastline but today was the day. The wind had dropped to near zero.  The temperature was up to 60F.  Conditions were truly optimal for the end of November. Lack of diligence [...]