We all want the next Perfect Day. We think back about the last one. How do we have more of them, more often? Let
Category: D/s
The Dom, the sub and Gifts of Service
I write much on helping others but I also write on Dominant/submissive relationships (D/s). And in my mind, they are both very related. Men can
Possessions
When Curvey introduced herself to some folks at the Pool Saturday, she said, “I’m Curvey, I belong to Tex.” These are people I had already
Internalizing Guilt: the submissive edition
I will never say, “all women are like this”. Too broad a brush. I take it personally when I hear women say, “all men are
Leadership
I am part of a group we call Fraternity of Excellence. There are very few, if any, days off here. This month we are concentrating
Bare Ass Painting
One of the good things about our kids being grown and gone is our privacy. At any given time, one or both of us is
Understanding the Female Mind
How about we bite off a topic for the ages? No problem. Hopefully I can amuse myself a bit. I often hear men saying things
We are who we are…
I was talking to my curveysub this afternoon and we were comparing notes on things happening in our lives, as we try to do at
The D/s Journey (Valentines Edition)
Not all of us can live in a true Dominant/submissive relationship. It takes one helluva lot of effort from both husband and wife. Some folks
Rules, Rules, Rules
One of the things I read about with most couples that get into a Dominant/submissive relationship, especially if they go 24/7, are the establishment of
Complacency Kills
We initiated our D/s protocols a few years ago. Or I should say, we started living our true selves. The results have overall been spectacular.
Happiness Dominates
One of the most amazing things I’ve noticed about Curvey and I getting our act together a few years ago, happiness bleeds over into so
Leading thru Health Issues
In Sickness and in Health We’ve heard those words a million times. In fact, when we talk D/s contracts, many of us fall back to
A Parable on Strengthening
There was a man one time that was told he had a torn bicep tendon in his shoulder, one of two such tendon attachment points,
Gorean Lifestyle
When I mention anything to do with Gorean lifestyle, people will always ask me questions. Some have heard of the Gorean slave positions but I
How kinky are we?
BDSM, huh? Bondage, discipline, Sadism, Masochism, Dominant, submissive. Master, slave, Daddy, little girl, etc. If someone was to ask me, “What is BDSM?” I
Sub-Space
So Mr Beginner Dom is thrust into a tornado of relationship chaos in the most amazing and rewardingways. Suddenly, he’s back with his girl like
New Doms Overthinking It
One of the issues with couples wishing to enter the D/s lifestyle is a situation where one partner has had a lot more time to
Respect
We’ve all grown up listening to Aretha Frankin’s R E S P E C T song but were you aware the song was written by
First Mate and My Mission
I was talking to some friends the other day and we were talking about a Man’s Mission in life. That mission will change as goals
Don’t Panic
Someone the other day asked me why I used to use the little Don’t Panic guy as my avatar. For starters, the Hitchhikers Guide to
The Hacksaw
I was cutting some wire shelving for a closet recently; using a good hacksaw with a long blade designed for metal. As I made the
A Deeper Connection
A deeper connection with someone. It’s why we go out on dates, move in together, marry, have children perhaps. And yet while we are all
My Gorean Slave
One of the fun things over the last few years are my Curvey and I exploring different flavors of D/s (Dominance/submission). We have met several
Our Last Two Years
Lord knows I’ve told this story a few times. Even to a large like-minded group of D/s couples in Vegas last year and on various
Words Matter
My Curvey asked me the other day if I realized that in just a few of well chosen words, I can make her soar and
Wise Words
As Doms, I think we are expected to have a treasure trove of wise words and sage advice for those who count on us. Some
