That Which is Important

Nothing like a Pandemic to make one pause and take personal inventory.

The world is in a lockdown of sorts. People here and there appear to be losing their minds. Employers laying people off. Kids being home schooled.

Changes are exploding around us.

Put your seatbelt on and keep your hands inside the car until the ride comes to a complete stop. It certainly feels like a roller coaster, day in and day out, for many.

For some of us, it’s proverbial Ground Hog Day.

My personal inventory taken has been positive.

Health getting dialed in tighter. Job still intact as of today. Retirement possibly pushed out a ways.

But most importantly, relationships with other humans is where I am spending most of my mental energy.

I’m blessed to have many on-line friends and I value them all. But it’s here at home. That’s where I’m concentrating.

My son is a few miles away, having to re-isolate for 14 days after running into someone that hadn’t been. Our family time got messed up. I’m looking forward to seeing him in 10 more days.

My daughter and grandsons are many states away; Face Time a poor substitute for an actual hug.

My mom is 2 hours south of me. Alone.

I believe we will all come out of this soon enough, changed but very aware. Aware of that which is truly important.

It’s the people you love and respect. It’s the warm embrace. It’s smile on the child’s face. It’s wrapping your arms around your wife and reassuring her that all will be okay.

It’s relationships that really matter. People over things.

As the media is now reporting, we seem to be over the hump. We will re-open, a few segments at a time, wary but grateful for some sense of normalcy.

And yet, this new normal, where will it find you placing your priorities? Job? Possessions? Weekend carousing? Binge eating? Drinking too much on Friday and Saturday nights, happy to have survived another bitter work week?

I am focusing on the positives.

More families appreciating the time spent together. Making sure we speak to our neighbors as we are out and about. Taking the aging widow down the street dinner, as she spends her final years alone and quite possibly very afraid.

Will families decide that a stay at home Mom is a lot better alternative than a dual income? Will homeschooling be more a mainstay going forward?

Do young men decide they’d rather start a family than chase tail?

Do young women decide that they’d rather have kids now over later after a career has been established?

Do we enter a more frugal stage in society? Remembering only too well what it was like to suddenly have the financial rug pulled out from beneath us?

These questions will answer themselves soon enough. I, for one, am looking forward to getting back to the beach, seeing more family and friends, getting the boat back to the fishing hole with my son, seeing my wife less worried and more able to enjoy her recently found retirement.

This and so much more. I have always been a very optimistic man. I remain so.

Because deep down, I know what is important in life and what is not.

If you are still confused and befuddled, that’s okay. You are not alone. But now is the time to analyze your priorities and make some decisions about how you will go forward.

2 comments… add one
  • Jan Aug 17, 2020 @ 1:36

    Thank you for this. Yep, the craziness is still on for me, and it’s not easy to chill and take inventory, though I feel deep down that IS the wisest thing to do now.
    Taking too much action has proven to be futile at times. Reaching out to people, much more fruitful.
    All the best,
    Jan, Czech Rep.

  • Raymond Philippe Mar 11, 2021 @ 13:27

    Wow. It’s like stepping into a time capsule reading your post. A lot of the issues you mention still stand. The difference is we seem to be making progress with medicine to cure and vaccines to prevent the disease. But at what cost. Can’t believe we have had over a year to ask ourselves questions. Time flies. Even if you are not having fun 😉

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