In the era of social media, we all have more friends than ever. But do we?
I have a ton of casual, semi-anonymous folks I interact with on the internet. I enjoy the conversations, debates and advice given and received.
I have some acquaintances I see here locally from time to time. Not much on the local social scene in our small town, so I really don’t see these folks all that much. Are they really my friends? Hmm… curvey and I discuss this from time to time. I can count on one hand how many I’ve met in a pub for a beer this year.
What defines a friend? Someone that will be there for you even when it’s not convenient? Someone that will tell you that you’re screwing up when you’re screwing up? Someone that you would trust with your life or those of your family?
I’m a terrible friend if you judge me on how often you see me socially.
After traveling many day out of most weeks, when I get home I have to prioritize. My girl will always come first. She and I have been apart from each other sometimes north of two weeks. We need time to reconnect and engage. So, since we found our current D/s path a few years ago, we place each other first when it comes to time allocation. This has earned dividends on a relationship that has become darned near bulletproof.
I try and form a vision of me working down the street, Monday thru Friday, 8-5 and home every weekend and evening. I guess at that point, maybe having friends near and about would be vastly more important to spend my valuable time currency on.
Don’t get me wrong, there are a lot of people I truly love spending time with. I’m a very social person. But are they really true and deep friendships? I question this a lot. Perhaps its easy to maintain friendships and I’m just doing it wrong. I don’t know what I don’t know.
I do know that I am ruthlessly loyal to the men and women on this earth whom I love. That includes a lot of family and a lot of non-family, some I see weekly, some I’ve never met in person.
I will die one day perhaps regretting the time spent on the road away from home, family and friends, but I will not die regretting the free moments I have now that I spend with my girl. After years of raising kids, we finally get to enjoy time alone and I’m very stingy when it comes to sharing. I want her all and I”m willing to give her mine in return. No going back.