We’ve all grown up listening to Aretha Frankin’s R E S P E C T song but were you aware the song was written by a man, Otis Redding, as a demand to his girl to respect him.

A man who does not feel respected by his woman will likely stop giving a damn. He will show her less love.  Women want to be loved.  So without feeling loved, she is more and more disrespectful.  It’s a viscous negative spiral.

This is the premise of a book that’s been around a long time called Love and Respect by E. Eggerichs.  I think for anyone wanting to introduce themselves or another to the Dominant/submissive lifestyle, this book is a very good starting place.  It doesn’t go into kinky stuff like you’ll read when researching D/s.  But it does explore the basic foundations of the dynamic in a very non-threatening way.

So the man isn’t feeling respected and the woman isn’t feeling loved.  Who’s gonna blink first?  One party has to be first to step forward and “feed” the other. I will love her even if I don’t think she is acting right. The woman says, I will respect him as my husband even though… someone has to stop the negative spiral.

It seems like many relationships could benefit from this approach. If you are not feeding each other, eventually someone will feed your girl or some other girl will start feeding you and then it’s all over.  When things are rocky, get back to the basics of love, respect, communication and trust   It all starts here.

Good luck, it’s truly worth it.