Wise Words

As Doms, I think we are expected to have a treasure trove of wise words and sage advice for those who count on us. Some times we have to dig deep.

We might not be feeling well. Some times, overwhelmed. Or none of it makes any sense.

So what to do? Be steady. Be calm. Be in the moment. Not making weekend plans, etc. Just feel.

I will paint with a broad brush here. Subs are generally feeling types. Big balls of emotions. Doms tend to be more practical, information absorbers. Planners. Strategize and execute the plan.

Sub isn’t really needing wise words or counsel. They need to feel your presence. When her emotions are conflicting and troubled, she is to sit in my lap with her head on my chest. My heartbeat in her ear.

My only wise words sometimes are “come sit in my lap, baby doll”. She will cry. She will talk in riddles. I don’t have to offer a judgement or agree with any of it. Just be there and let her feel me.

While this certainly can feed her, it feeds me as well. I give the gift of momentary calm and peace.

 

 

3 comments

  1. Beautiful advice. Often all I need is to be wrapped in my Sir’s arms, surrounded by his strength, that give me the peace to know the two of us can weather anything together.

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